Failures are hard to accept; repeated failures, even harder. It takes a lot of courage to accept it, and probably a lot more than a gallon of water to gulp it down! And then once it’s done and over with, you wonder, ‘what went wrong?’, ‘why did it not work out?’, ‘who was to blame?’
Blaming oneself, that’s something we’re all yet to imagine. Blaming someone or something else, it’s a piece of cake! So why do we get into that blame game; the vicious cycle of putting things on others for our own miseries, to make a sorry figure out of ourselves, to escape reality.
God has been kind. I’ve had things work out for me, more often than not. So the times when it doesn’t work out, it’s punishing (not that we should get a hang of it). Success makes you greedy. And well, you start taking it for granted. Sometimes the amount of effort you put in also goes down with the overconfidence it brings along. It is very dangerous.
And when the ball moves out of your court, you blame the court, you blame the ball and you blame all that is in between the two. You want to rewind and go back to when things were on your side, but real life does not work that way.
Failure might bring along a sense of dissatisfaction, the pain is unmatched, but doesn’t it also bring along the opportunity to bounce back, and make things even; let’s think of it that way!
My husband and I, (as with most couples) act as mutual shrinks (or motivators), so when one of us is low, the other one takes over. He tells me, ‘you must learn from a tennis ball, the harder it falls down, the higher it bounces back’. Only if we could treat life this way, nothing would keep us from reaching higher.
Failure also makes us compromise on direction. One failure and we lose track of things. Perseverance might be the key, but staying on track and keeping firm about it adds a lot more sense to it.
We fail, at some point of time, all of us do. But it’s never permanent. It has as much life as we want to give it. What we do with it, is what makes all the difference. I've met people who fail, crib and blame. And then there are those who slog through every defeat, give it a good fight and come back as winners. It is always a choice.